dDoinkster Speaks

This is going to be a wordy post. :D no photos this time. ;) just rantings/venting of a disappointed friend. *note : This is just for me to vent. Don't read so much into it. Thank you. A situation just came to my attention in which i;ve been put on the table and 'framed' for something which i have no knowledge of. I've been said to have feelings for a friend of the opposite gender whom i hang out with often. And the worst part of it was that she fell for the lies and believed the few people that told her that i have the hots her without even asking me about it. They ASSUMED by the actions and through the events that they saw when i was with her, they came to the conclusion that i indeed had some feelings for her. Without confronting me and confirming the assumed matter, they went on to convince the girl about my feelings which never was and she fell for it. Man,honestly..i'm kinda disappointed. I know i can't stop people from talking whatever they want to talk but to have a friend whom you've hanged out with, not stand up to defend you but also fell for the lies and looked back at some actions and ASSUMED again that because of those actions, she thinks i have feelings for her. All happening when another friend of mine was going after her for the past 2 months. So when they got together, those people that ASSUMED that i had feelings for my close friend, kept telling the new couple about how i would react to the news. Sigh,it's getting really hard to be single and hang out with other singles of the opposite gender. Just for being a gentleman and nice, people come to their own conclusions without getting their facts right from the person itself. Worst of all, they go on and tell it to others making the rumors bigger and sometimes believable until the person that's being 'framed' finds out about it and clarifies it with everybody when it doesn't have to come to that when in the beginning, they confronted the person and just ask him/her about the matter. Isn't that easier? Doesn't that sounds so much less complicated? Those people that started it, you would think they would have known better but still they went on with it. Isn't that great? I'm just disappointed. And all this happened in the church! A place where you think people who has went for bible study and all that sort of stuffs would have learnt something by now. What happened? Humans are still humans? Still sinners? Still weak and still making mistakes? Yes,this proves part of it. Even if you're in church and been in church for a while, you still screw up like this. Same goes for me...but at least i make an effort to make sure that if i hear something, i will clarify the matter with the right person and not spread it unless by spreading the truth, it'll help clear the matter then yes. This isn't the first time that i've been wrongly accused of such matter. Well,now the person is going to be my cousin's wife soon so its ok. So because i used to be close to her, people in church were asking if i was with her. Man,has it always been that a man and a woman cannot have a close friendship? Can't be best buddies? Guess not. So too bad. Maybe some will ask,why are you making this such a big thing? Nah,not really a big thing...just venting cause i thought that the friends that i was close to would at least stand up and defend me when rumors come. :) But there were a few that did stand up for me but didn't say it loud it enough. Well,at least they tried. So thank you. :) One thing that i'm thankful for from this situation is that at least now i know who are my real friends, friends that actually know me well, well to stand up for me when i'm being said/accused of something that isn't true. :) Too bad the close friend of mine didn't want to disclose her sources, which i would have loved to thank them in person for knowing me so well when i didn't know about the things they concluded with. :) Great psychics we have here in Malaysia. So thank you to those who came to those conclusion by yourselves. :) Thank you to those that fell for those 'truths' and didn't bother to come to me to clarify the matter. :) At least i've learnt something from this. May God bless you, mercy and grace be upon you for the days ahead. Have a nice week ahead. "Misfortune shows those who are not really friends." -Aristotle, Eudemian Ethics ; Greek critic, philosopher, physicist, & zoologist (384 BC - 322 BC)-

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